I have made it my mission to help as many people as I can to lead a better, richer, happier and more wholesome life – no matter what has come before or where a person may be right now”
The Early Years
My parents have always had their own business, and they had built a really strong, successful building trades business but unfortunately it fell victim to the 1992 recession and in no real time at all my Dad was letting around 100 workmen go, most with families of their own who were struggling.
At this time, I was only 11 or 12 so I didn’t really appreciate what a recession was. What I did recognise though was that I didn’t like being told that our house could be repossessed at any time, and that I wasn’t to open the door to anyone I didn’t recognise in case it was bailiffs.
Fortunately, our home wasn’t repossessed, but my parents always struggled to rebuild the business and lifestyle that they had previously had. And I grew older, watching and experiencing their pain and their heartache as each attempt to break into a new market failed, I knew then that I wasn’t prepared to suffer as they have.
Self-Isolation and The Wrong Philosophy
The wider familial problems notwithstanding, I had my own troubles to content with. At high school I had to come to terms with being gay. I struggled to ‘fit in’ because I always felt that I was different. I was certainly never ‘one of the lads’, and my lack of confidence to simply be myself led me down an increasingly difficult path.
I became self-isolated, mistakenly thinking that if I was to get where I wanted to be in life, I needed to shut myself off from the rest of the world. I was afraid of being hurt by other people so I became someone who wasn’t nice to be around person – embracing the philosophy that the best line of defence is attack. I hadn’t yet encountered to the words of Zig Ziglar who said ‘you can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough people get what they want.’
I became depressed, I drank to excess, and I feared being emotionally and psychologically hurt by other people. My vulnerability came from a lack of confidence in myself and my abilities. I thought if I allowed people to become close to me, they would come to see me as a fraud, and I couldn’t handle to thought of being rejected in this way.
I did consider taking my own life, but I couldn’t.
An Escape and a Liberation
I chose instead to escape so I got a job on a cruise ship as a Passenger Services Assistant, essentially dealing with everyone else’s problems. Surprisingly, I was really good at it and the passengers recognised me for it. It was truly liberating; I came to realise that I was good at helping other people and that by helping them they appreciated me, and that gave me a real sense of pride and self-respect. I made a commitment to myself one night that from here on, I was going to commit myself to helping other people. It was the first step towards me becoming a personal coach.
Setting a Better Course
I chose to leave sea life to go to university where I studied Business and specialised in HR Training & Development. I climbed the corporate ladder, doing my very best to support people to better themselves and advance their own careers. It was great.
Great until the global financial crash of 2008 really started sinking its teeth in and the years of austerity that followed took hold, strangling the business community. Training and development initiatives were out, and restructures and redundancies were in. At the time, I remember it felt like I was surrounded by Dementors from Harry Potter that would just suck the happiness from my soul.
The Time Has Come
I got out of working for someone else and went into business for myself. I took another post-graduate course in Executive Coaching and Mentoring and set up my own personal coaching business.
This has allowed me to help other professionals change their lives for the better, be it by growing an income they never thought possible or introducing new income streams to provide greater long-term security from whatever is going on the outside world. But not only that: some people’s success is about living more fulfilling lives, being happier, healthier, a better parent, whatever. Success in life is what we all want, even though it looks different to each of us. As a Success Coach I know that the help I give to others really makes a difference to their lives, and that suits me just fine.
In the end, I am now happier than I have ever been. I’m married and soon, my husband and I hope to adopt and have a little family all of our own. I now have two successful businesses and I know that the more people I get to help become successful in their own right, the more financially secure me and my family will become. Long gone are the days of fearing a knock on the door from the bailiffs.
A Personal Transformation
I am fortunate to know that I have found myself and a calling in life that I feel so passionate about. It’s often impossible to know what to do to make things better when we are in such a dark place of despair. All I had to do was stop thinking about why my life was so bad, and start helping other people make a better life for themselves. It seems to simple on reflection, but that is because today I have a clear mind and a fulfilling calling. When all said and done, I’m here to help other people succeed.
For things to change for you, you need to change.”
I only have three words to describe Harry Armistead and these are ‘passionate, authentic, and awesome’. There aren’t many coaches out there so committed to the development of their clients, and I can’t recommend Harry any more highly.